tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8394811802308151062024-03-13T20:20:31.160-07:00Wickerblog - RuminationsWhat I'm thinking about. Posts may be larger than they appear. Can't say I'll write regularly, but I hope when I do you'll share your thoughts.Chris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.comBlogger111125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839481180230815106.post-43596111926453125072014-12-05T08:53:00.000-07:002014-12-05T08:54:42.671-07:00Hands Up, Don't Shoot<div class="p1">
We're taught to believe the law operates as an adversarial process. We, the public, are to be encouraged by the fact that we have prosecutors who will vigorously seek justice for those who were wronged and by the fact that those who are accused will receive a vigorous defense. </div>
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The problem I, and many others, have today is that we are presented with a system in which prosecutors are asked to vigorously seek justice for those who they may perceive as criminals against those who are very often their own colleagues. Perhaps we are asking too much; perhaps what we need is a fundamental change to the way we seek justice when citizens are killed by those who are sworn to protect them. </div>
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Much of my professional career has involved protecting information and securing data from the prying eyes of those who would use it maliciously. Were I involved in a data breach I don't believe anyone would be satisfied by a review from my co-workers that found my hands clean and completely exonerated me. If a young woman accused me of abusing her while in my role as a minister I don't think anyone would be satisfied by a report from my church administrators that cleared me of wrong doing. As a father I don't think anyone would accept a statement from my partner that the bruises on my child's face were simply an accident. We should not and most of us would not accept the results of these "investigations." </div>
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But this is what we're faced with time and time again when a citizen winds up dead after coming into contact with police. We need to fundamentally change the way we do things. We need a prosecutor who will vigorously seek justice for a citizen who is gunned down in the street, who is tear-gassed or pepper-sprayed while protesting, who is strangled to death on a sidewalk. I'm not saying the police are the problem - I know many fine officers who do their absolute best to serve and protect. But I won't accept that young black men are the problem either. We, as citizens, deserve to be reassured in the light of day that those we pin a badge on are acting in our own best interest. And every young black man deserves to know that their safety is our concern. </div>
Chris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839481180230815106.post-39205508620997701332014-09-17T11:39:00.001-07:002014-09-17T12:12:39.100-07:00Why I Spank My Kids<br />
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There's been an awful lot of talk lately about spanking kids. There has been one voice that has been suspiciously absent despite (what I know to be) a significant percentage of the population: progressive/liberal parents who spank their kids. Of course, you'll say, liberal/progressive minded people don't spank their kids! Bullshit. I know quite a few people who are incredibly modern in their parenting philosophy but still administer corporal punishment on occasion. Let me begin my story by sharing, at least historically, in your disbelief. Before I was a parent, even as I began my journey as a foster parent I was firmly in the "spankings are child abuse" camp. We had a foster parent class we attended and one of the fathers was absolutely in disbelief that you couldn't spank a foster kid. I was mortified - what was wrong with this psycho? "Just wait till you learn the proper parenting techniques," I thought to myself, " and thank goodness you're required to take this class!" As we continued our journey through the foster care system we had a lot of children come into our care. Some for very short periods of time (days) and others for many years. As a parent of more than 20 children I came to realize one thing that I think is too often ignored when talking about parenting; every kid needs their own unique kind of discipline. What works for one kid, and by works I mean helps that child become a happy, healthy, well-adjusted member of society, almost certainly does not work for another. Children have different life experiences, different personalities, different strengths, and different weaknesses. What I found during my time as a foster parent was that some of our modern, progressive ideas about parenting just don't work on some kids. As a foster parent, even with a long term placement, there were times we had to just come to the understanding that some kids were not going to respond to any of the techniques we had available to us. Writing sentences, extra homework, sitting in timeout, redirecting, standing in the corner, praise for good behavior, loss of privilege: you name it and we tried it. Well, we tried everything other than a spanking.<br />
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What really bothers me about what I'm seeing in media lately (what we always see in the media lately) is that we're presented with caricatures of parents that present this issue as some great divide separating two very different styles. One one side, you see the hippy-dippy parenting-magazine helicopter-parent that wants to have a heartfelt conversation with their child about why they shouldn't walk into a fire pit and then negotiate an experience that allows the child to learn right behavior based on their own feelings and personal experience. On the other side there's the 1950s-era alcoholic father who flies off the handle in a fit of rage as he channels Bill Cosby, "The beatings will now begin!" As usual this is a gross mischaracterization, in my opinion, that leaves normal people wondering which archetype they fall into. I'm here to tell you there is no archetype. We, parents, are just trying to do the best we can with the time, talents, and resources we have available to us.<br />
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I questioned a friend recently about the difference between assigning a child sentences to write, knowing that their hand would cramp and their butt would ache as they sat in a hard wooden chair struggling to complete them, and having a child bend over for a spanking. "Writing sentences isn't an act of violence," he responded. It makes me wonder how he imagines a spanking in my house goes down. I can only guess that he thinks I'm at my wits end (which I usually am, admittedly) and I rage-beat my kids because I can't think of anything else to do. Poor kids. That's not what happens at all. If you will indulge me, let me explain how discipline happens in my house. There are 5 children ranging from 3 to 12. When someone breaks a rule (and someone is always breaking a rule) they are forced to stand in front of me and look me in the eye and tell me what they did wrong. If they hit/touched/kicked/pulled hair/smacked/bumped into/tripped (You have no idea how long this list goes on unless you are a parent) another kid then they both have to come stand in front of me and they both get to share their side of the story. Most of the time they have to apologize and hug each other and we move on with our day. Sometimes they won't apologize. Sometimes they aren't sorry. Sometimes they won't come tell me what happened. Sometimes they do it over and over and over again. Sometimes I get a call from their teacher. The law of the land is telling the truth. You can do anything you want in our house as long as you're willing to fess up to it and suffer the consequences.<br />
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Most of the time the consequence is sitting in timeout. Sometimes it's cleaning up a mess, sometimes it's losing a favorite toy or a privilege like watching TV. Sometimes, very rarely, it's bad enough that they have to write sentences (à la Bart Simpson) or get grounded to their room. We run a tight ship in our household, you have to with 5 kids. Discipline is handled fairly (in my opinion) and quickly. Different kids react differently to different consequences. One of the twins melts down like it's the end of the world if they have to stand in the corner, the other could care less and would stand there for hours. Take her iPad time away, however, and she falls apart. The 12 year old breaks down in tears anytime she does anything wrong and oftentimes just having to admit she did something that was against the rules is enough to set her straight. Sometimes she loses her iPod for a few days. The 3 year old (my only boy) gets sent to bed because, honestly, he usually only does something wrong when he's too tired. He hates going to bed more than anything in the world. The 9 year old, however, is a soldier with few weaknesses. She can sit in timeout for 5 hours a day for weeks on end and she won't cave - no apologies or admission of guilt. She once sat in timeout for hours scratching HER OWN NAME into the banister of the staircase and her only response was to scratch up the side of the piano. Over the years we've tried rewarding her, praising her, shaming her (yes, I'm not proud), taking away privileges, assigning her task - I can't even remember all of the techniques we tried on this kid. But the fact of the matter is she is a very difficult child.<br />
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Some kids are easy, for the most part, and some kids are difficult. My 9 year old has an excuse - she was abandoned to the foster care system at a very early age and has deep scars from the experience. I don't blame her for being difficult - my job isn't to judge her. My job is to do everything I can to help her grow into a successful member of society and to help her become the bright and shining star that I know she has the potential to be. You know what we found worked wonders for this kid? Getting spanked. After we adopted her we decided to try spanking her when she lied to us (her biggest problem was lying and that's the only thing that warrants a spanking in our house). Can I tell you something? Spanking this kid changed her life. You wouldn't recognize her if you had known her before. That's just what it took to get through to her. Well, that's what it took for us to get through to her - there may have been other techniques; something may have eventually worked. Unfortunately she has to share our parenting time with 4 other kids. It sucks to say that but at the end of the day you play with the cards you're dealt.<br />
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So here's how you get spanked in my house. You lie. Repeatedly. You get caught and you're given a chance to fess up. You're confronted with the evidence but you still lie. Sometimes it's even as blunt as, "I know you did XYZ. I'm going to have to spank you if you don't admit to doing it." Still they lie. so we sit down and I explain that in our house we don't lie to each other. I ask them if they know what happens when they lie. They know. It's inexplicable that they can see a spanking coming and they still hang on to the lie. I can't tell you how often I second guess myself, "are they really lying? Who would hang onto it this long?" But I can't back down; the rules are the rules. They're asked to lay down over my knees and I ask them one last time if they're sure they don't want to tell the truth. They're usually already crying at this point and most of the time I start to cry a little too. Three or four swats on their bottom and its over. I once worried about how hard I smacked them but then I realized that it had nothing to do with how it felt physically. The discipline was emotional. It was embarrassing for them, most of the time, and they often felt like they disappointed me. Its no different, in my opinion, than writing sentences or sitting alone in a quiet bedroom. There's a sharp sting instead of a cramped hand but they both get filed away as a "very bad thing" and for the most part it pretty well serves to stop things dead in their tracks. My 9 year old got to the point where she would ask if she could just get a spanking instead of writing sentences; sometimes I even agreed because, frankly, it is exhausting watching someone write sentences for hours at a time. I should add that most of my children have never been spanked and I haven't spanked anyone in years.<br />
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This is terribly long and I'm sure no one is still reading but let me just address one last point. My friend, the one that described my spankings as an act of violence, posted a quote from a recent CNN article, "The only person you can legally hit in the United States is a child." It's a great attention grabbing line and, sort of, accurate. My response is, "so what." The only person who you can legally strip naked and throw in a bathtub is a child too. You're pretty much only allowed to wipe shit off of one person's butt in this country too. There's also only one person you're legally responsible for in this country - your child. You're responsible for keeping them from getting run over by a car, for avoiding a fire pit, for getting fed, for taking a bath, for not having shit on their ass, and for not robbing, assaulting, or violating another person. Kids are different than everyone else because you're legally and morally responsible for everything that happens to them and everything they do. So yeah, you're legally allowed to "hit" your own kid (hyperbole aside) in order to help raise them the best way you see fit. There are rules about how hard you can hit and what happens to you if you hurt them. Adrian Peterson? He's probably a child abuser. Because he took a switch to his kid? No; because he wounded him and left marks of violence. That's illegal no matter what your opinion is of spanking. Calling anyone who spanks their child an abuser is no different than calling a woman who has an abortion a murderer. It's unnecessary and not fitting for the level of discourse we should expect in this country. <br />
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http://www.cnn.com/2014/09/15/opinion/robbins-spanking-adrian-peterson-case/Chris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839481180230815106.post-17985256507880999102014-08-11T22:37:00.000-07:002014-08-11T22:37:14.603-07:00Depression. Suicide. Nanu Nanu.I'm writing this after a long day of work and a tiring night with the kids. This afternoon the world learned that Robin Williams was dead and it's believed he took his own life. Dammit all to hell, but that's a kick in the gut. When I was young I loved Mork from Ork, even more so after finding out that we shared the same last name*. I always wondered if we were secretly related (I was young and had no idea how common Williams was as a last name) and hoped that somewhere, sometime I'd find out that he was my crazy uncle twice-removed or some such thing. Anyway, today is a tough day for a lot of people. Mr. Williams touched a lot of hearts in his relatively short life and almost everyone you meet has a favorite performance or a bit that never fails to make them smile. It absolutely rips me apart to think about his loneliness at the end, to imagine the way his heart felt before he decided he'd had enough. Damn. Just Damn. Damn, damn, damn.<br />
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Well, here goes. I'm not sure I believe in coincidence but I'm compelled tonight to share a story I can't seem to shake free and let go. I haven't talked about suicide in . . . ever, really . . . and this past week it's been the topic of conversation more than once in my circle of friends. Just the other night, a Tuesday, I had a rare moment completely free from all responsibility: no children, no friends, no appointments, no schedule. It had been so long since I was truly alone with my thoughts I almost didn't know what to do. I went for a walk. Then I went for a drive. I meandered through the aisles of the Goodwill. I wound up buying myself a nice bottle of scotch; thinking perhaps I would sit at home and listen to some jazz and enjoy the hell out of drinking alone. I stopped to get some dinner and as I sat there eating a chicken bowl from Panda Express I started to rethink my plan to sip myself into a slow stupor. More about this in a bit.<br />
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Robin Williams, suicide at age 63. Sobering as all hell. This is a pretty difficult thing to admit and I feel like I can only do it because so many people are talking about it today. I am exhausted and want to stop writing and go to sleep but I'm afraid if I wait until tomorrow I'll never share this.<br />
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I've cut into my arms and hoped it was deep enough that I would accidentally die. That time in my life didn't last long but it was a short, powerful period of depression that I had a really difficult time shaking. You probably wouldn't be surprised to discover it was Junior High. I remember one day after school sitting in my bathroom shower with a knife cutting criss-cross patterns into my forearms and thinking it was probably as good a time as any to see how deep I could go when my phone rang. It's the same story every kid who "almost did it" has - my friend called me and knocked me out of it and everything was all better afterwards. Was I serious? I don't know; it's hard to look back from 20+ years in the future and remember what it felt like to be a lonely 13 year old boy. My friend called me every day so the cynical part of my personality thinks I probably knew instinctively the phone call was coming. But maybe I didn't. Did God step in? I don't know. What I know is time has passed and I've managed to keep going to sleep and waking up again the next morning, every morning.<br />
<br />What terrifies me about this whole topic is I don't know anything about suicide. Is it like alcoholism? Is it caused by a disease that you can never cure or is it a fleeting moment that you can pass by if you manage to survive it. This is a big part of the problem for us, if you ask me - we can't talk about suicide in a way that's meaningful. As I type this tonight all I can think about is how my mom is going to feel when she reads it or the concerned phone calls I'm going to get from my friends wanting to seem super supportive and cool but secretly just afraid I'm going to kill myself tomorrow. I'm not. I love my life, I'm happy, and I love every day that passes - I look forward to every new day. But . . .<br />
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I still wonder if suicidal tendencies are like alcoholism. Am I cured? I have these brushes with paranoia when I look at a whole bottle of blood pressure medicine or I am driving down a steep mountain road or when I've got the 10" chef's knife out. Not, "I want to kill myself" but instead,"Holy shit what if I wanted to kill myself?" Do you see the difference? I could just do it and that terrifies me. It's not the desire to do it but instead the recognition that I could or the fear that I might want to.<br />
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This brings me back to the bottle of scotch I bought on Tuesday night. I was feeling a little down that night, not sure why. I bought the bottle thinking it would be a nice night to drink a few glasses and doze off with a warm belly. But on my way home I got scared, like I sometimes do, that it might be a bad night to drink. "What if I'm too depressed to drink tonight? What if I do something stupid and kill myself?" Not the desire, not even the feeling that I might do it. Simply the fear of putting myself in a position that could make me want to. What if that's all it takes for someone to kill themselves? What if it's really just about being in the wrong place at the wrong time? What if no one actually "means" to do it but they just don't catch the signs that tell them they're going to put themselves in a bad position? How can we know?<br />
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Well, this is why I braved some of my darkest fears that Tuesday night. I pulled out my phone and chatted up one of my oldest friends, one of the people you can talk to about anything. And honestly, one of the people I knew I could talk to that wouldn't call the police. I shared what I was feeling and (after the obligatory, "you're OK right?") we started talking about being depressed and having suicidal thoughts. Turns out he has had similar thoughts. We had an honest to goodness conversation about what it is to be a human being; what it means to live every day and not know what the hell you're doing. We shared our fears, we shared our self-loathing, we shared our regrets. In short, we talked about the kinds of things we're almost always too afraid to talk to other people about because we're worried they'll think we're going to hurt ourselves.<br />
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And then I had the same conversation with two other friends on Friday night. Same preface, same momentary concern expressed, same fruitful conversation. Are we all just walking around wondering whether or not we're about to swerve our cars into traffic? Are we all just 3 stiff drinks away from sliding off a bridge into a river? Why can't we talk about these dark thoughts with each other?<br />
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Well, I don't know why I'm writing this except there's some part of me down deep that thinks maybe, perhaps just maybe, I might just be the person you'd be willing to talk about suicide the one time it feels too real. I won't know how you feel but I'll listen and hopefully we can learn something from each other and find out what it will take to see another sunrise.<br />
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*I changed my last name after I turned 18 for reasons that extend beyond the scope of this blog post.Chris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839481180230815106.post-69977383199635490702013-11-14T12:29:00.001-07:002013-11-14T12:29:30.123-07:00<span style="font-family: inherit;">Something has been weighing heavily on my mind lately. I've been hesitant to share it because I'm afraid it will be misinterpreted but here goes nothing. All I can ask for is your grace. <br /><br />I'm having a really hard time getting behind the support group for Frank Shaefer. I have a lot of friends that "stand with Pastor Frank" (there's even a Facebook page - <a href="https://www.facebook.com/StandWithFrank" target="_blank">Stand with Pastor Frank: Support Equality</a>) but there is something about all of this that is really not sitting well with me. Here's my issue - I don't think most of my friends in the UMC (United Methodist Church) really <i>stand with</i> Frank as much as they <i>agree with</i> his objections to church law (UMC law - the Book of Discipline specifically). <br /></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">Let me be clear, I wholeheartedly <i>agree with</i> Pastor Frank and others that the law is ludicrous; the idea that sanctifying the marriage of two people is a so-called "chargeable offense" for a pastor has me so filled with rage that I'm on the edge of walking away from the UMC altogether. This is, in fact, what it means to me to say I <i>stand with </i>pastor Frank. By saying that, I feel like I'm saying I will stand next to him when the arrows fly. Were I ordained in the UMC it would mean that should his stole be ripped from his shoulders by a ruling of the court I would tear mine from around my own neck and hurl it at his accusers. As a lay person in the church, standing with Pastor Frank means (to me) that a rejection of his call to service through ordained ministry is a rejection of my own call to serve the Church and I could not see myself remaining within a denomination that would reject us. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Here's the thing - Pastor Frank broke the (church) law. As an ordained elder in the church he is sworn to uphold the "<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333;">traditions, polity, and beliefs of The United Methodist Church"</span> (<a href="http://www.umc.org/site/c.lwL4KnN1LtH/b.2296291/k.95B5/Pastor_Overview.htm" target="_blank">UMC Site - Pastor: Overview</a>). The Discipline (the source of church law for the UMC) explicitly says that he may be tried if he does what he did. It's explicit in the Book of Discipline, "<span style="color: #333333;">A bishop, clergy member of an annual conference (¶ 370), local pastor,14 clergy on honorable or administrative location, or diaconal minister may be tried when charged (subject to the statute of limitations in ¶ 2702.4)* with one or more of the following offenses . . . </span><span style="color: #333333;">being a self-avowed practicing homosexual; or conducting ceremonies which celebrate homosexual unions; or performing same-sex wedding ceremonies.</span>" I think it's absolute nonsense - but it's the law. In 2012 the entire worldwide body of the UMC gathered and voted on whether or not to change the law. That body is referred to as the General Conference and gathers to vote on changes to the law every four years. The result? <a href="http://articles.washingtonpost.com/2012-05-03/national/35455606_1_noncelibate-gay-clergy-gay-rights-homosexuality" target="_blank">The church body voted to keep the law in place</a>. It was the law when Pastor Frank performed the marriage ceremony and it is still the law. Again, I think it's <b>NONSENSE</b> and completely contrary to the message of Christ but that doesn't stop it from being the law. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">My sense is that my friends and colleagues want to avoid having Pastor Frank be tried for breaking the church's law. I get the impression that what <i>standing with</i> Pastor Frank means to many is urging the judicial body of the UMC to avoid taking up the case and thereby avoiding the nearly inevitable conclusion that will lead to him losing his position as an elder in the UMC (being defrocked). I don't thinking trying to hide from an unjust law and pretend it's not there is the best way to fight it; I think the best way to fight a law that damages people, unfortunately, is to force those people in power to deal with the gory carnage that comes from enforcement of the law <b>or </b>by turning your back and walking away from those with the power to uphold the law. Is it time for those that truly <i>stand with </i>Pastor Frank to part ways with their beloved United Methodist Church? What does it mean if we <i>stand with</i> Pastor Frank up until the point when he is found guilty then continue on as if nothing had changed at all? Can we truly <i>stand with</i> Frank Shaefer if we continue to serve under a Discipline that would invalidate his call to serve and punish him for answering a very personal, loving call to sanctify his son's marriage?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br />I don't think we can. In my understanding of Jesus I see in him a model for the way for us to stand up against unjust laws. I think most of us (Christians) believe that Jesus could have avoided the punishment the authorities said he was due but instead he (Jesus) chose to face the consequences. What is one of the most damning messages in the Gospels? I think it's the failure of Jesus' followers to stand with him as he was accused and later when his sentence was handed down. We might argue that the Church (capital C) exists today because Peter and the others sank into the background and hid when Jesus was dragged before his accusers (denied him even) but we are left to wonder what would have happened if the people had <i>stood with</i> Jesus when the judgement was announced. "Then crucify me too," they might have said. Who knows what the world would be like today if they had shown such courage? I believe this is what it means to <i>stand with</i> Pastor Frank and I'm not sure I, nor many of my colleagues and friends, are really ready to do it. </span><br />
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<a href="http://abcnews.go.com/US/methodist-pastor-frank-schaefer-faces-trial-sons-gay/story?id=20861139" target="_blank">Here's a little background on the story</a> if you're not familiar with it. </div>
Chris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839481180230815106.post-62447966196155085002012-10-16T09:49:00.001-07:002012-10-16T09:49:19.838-07:00SighThere are days I wake up and am forced to come face to face with the reality of stability. Some mornings every part of my body and mind seem to be screaming at me that I'm a middle-aged, overweight, gray-haired but balding, father of 5 that spends his free time at church. Just this weekend the coolest thought that crossed my mind was that I could bring my little boy with me to my buddy's house to watch football. Damn it all but I would kill for a taste of 25 again. I long for the days when my best attribute wasn't stability. My 20th high school reunion is coming up; I keep in touch with people from back then and am always amazed that they don't seem to be getting older the way I am. The realization hits me - I'm not aging well. In the back of your mind, you always think you'll be sitting at the table with your wife and snickering because so-and-so looks ten years older than everyone else. Terror sinks in as you realized one morning that it's going to be you. Shit. I have noticed in the past month that I have moles coming up on my arms and legs. They're jagged, lumpy messes of fear and I realize that it's all downhill from here.Chris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839481180230815106.post-76634534498131913112012-03-02T15:55:00.000-07:002012-03-02T15:55:45.700-07:00Sandra Fluke and Rush LimbaughI've been thinking a lot today about Rush Limbaugh's recent comments regarding Sandra Fluke on his radio show. I've been trying to understand why it upsets me so much, trying to understand why I'm so angry about THIS particular bit of foulness from Mr. Limbaugh.<br />
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Here's the deal: I have four daughters. They don't deserve to grow up in a world where a self-righteous misogynist like Rush Limbaugh can get away with calling them a slut on the public airwaves. Sandra Fluke is, by all accounts, exactly the kind of young woman I hope and pray that my daughters grow up to become. An assault on this woman is an assault on all women.<br />
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My anger isn't only on behalf of my daughters. I'm also enraged about the assault this represents on my brilliant and talented younger sister, a woman who has a future of limitless potential in front of her. When and if she becomes a parent it will be on her own terms; no man has the right to make that decision for her.<br />
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I dream that one day each one of my daughters will have the opportunity to stand up and speak with passion and conviction about something she believes in with all her heart. I'm going to go out on a limb and say that the ability to control conception is one of the most important advancements we have made towards equality between men and women in this world. Rush Limbaugh, don't you dare call a bold, brilliant young woman like my daughter a slut. Don't you dare let me hear you say that she is a prostitute or a "round-heeled woman" because she won't let her body and her sexuality belong to you.Chris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839481180230815106.post-81402052600158927722011-12-02T11:55:00.003-07:002011-12-02T11:58:25.347-07:00Musings about electronics retailersFunny thing happened on the way to work today. I heard a Staples commercial wherein the made fun of other electronics retailers for their awful selection and high prices. It made me think, "Does Staples really think they aren't the worst place to buy computer parts?" Or is it just an Huxley-esque (turns out Huxleyan means something else) attempt to convince a lie is true just by saying it's true. It made me wonder if people even realize how bad this store is?<br />
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So I thought to myself, "I wonder what it would be like if grocery stores sold food the same way that Staples sells computer parts?" So here's the amusing analogy that played through my head during my 30 minute commute.<br />
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<browsing empty="" mostly="" shelves="" the=""> "Gesum, they have price stickers for a few different types of cereal but nothing at all like the selection in their advertisements." </browsing><br />
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<approached -="" a="" by="" cereals="" department="" expert="" in="" purported="" salesperson="" the=""> "Hi there, can I help you?"</approached><br />
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"Sure," I reply, sure that I'm about to be frustrated. "I'm looking for a box of Kellogg's Corn Flakes.You know, the one that's on sale today. White, 12 oz box . . You don't seem to have any on the shelf but every advertising flyer you have posted in the store, on the sign out front, and on your website lists them on sale for the rest of the month. I can't even find the label on the shelf here where they would be. Are you out of them?"<br />
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<smarmy effect="" full="" in="" smile=""> "What are you looking to do with it?"</smarmy><br />
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<incredulous face="" look="" my="" on=""> "With the box of cereal? I'm hoping to eat it."</incredulous><br />
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<salesperson eyes="" rolls=""> "I mean, what kind of bowl are you going to put it in? Are you having it fro breakfast or for lunch?"</salesperson><br />
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<jaw drops=""> "I, I . . . what? Why do you care? I just want to know if you have this exact model. Do you have it?"</jaw><br />
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<salesperson getting="" is="" testy=""> "Well, the box you want really depends on what you want to do with it. How do you know you want Corn Flakes and not Raisin Bran?"</salesperson><br />
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<getting angry=""> "Because I asked you for Corn Flakes. If it makes you feel better, I'm looking for a box of cereal to eat for breakfast. I might put it in a bown with milk or I might just eat it out of the box. I might even eat it for dinner sometimes when I get home from work late."</getting><br />
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<obviously pleased=""> "Oh ok, Corn Flakes will probably work then. Do you want me to see if we have any in stock?"</obviously><br />
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<exhasperated> "Yes, yes please. Please find out if you have any in stock." </exhasperated><br />
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<about and="" asks="" away,="" to="" turns="" walk=""> "Did you know which size you wanted?"</about><br />
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< . . . > "Yes, the 12 oz box. The one that's on sale."<br />
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< . . . waiting . . . ><br />
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"You look lost. Can I help you?"<br />
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< impatient, arms crossed > "No, I'm fine. Someone is helping me already."<br />
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<stocker .="" accepting="" around="" because="" being="" helped="" i'm="" is="" looks="" me="" near="" no="" not="" obviously="" one="" that="" there=""> "Let me get someone from cereal sales."</stocker><br />
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< sighing > "Sigh."<br />
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< manager arrives > "Hi there, I understand you need some help finding some cereal?"<br />
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< confused about where the original salesperson is> "Yes, Corn Flakes. Did you have it in stock?"<br />
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< manager gets condescending look on their face, as if to say, "ignorant cereal shoppers" > "You know, there's lots of different types of cereal. What were you looking to use it for? Breakfast? Dinner? Do you have any bowls?"<br />
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< realizing the manager wasn't sent by the original salesperson but was retrieved by the stocker > "Nevermind, I was . . . someone else is helping me."<br />
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< non-plussed > "Oh, do you know who it was? I can go find them."<br />
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< shocked, trying to remember what the first person looked like > "Uhhhh, I didn't catch their name. Tall, kind of heavyset."<br />
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< affirming > "Right, right. I'll go check on them. See if the need help. They may have had to ask the butcher for help."<br />
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< somehow even more shocked > "The butcher . . . why, huh? Nevermind. Ok."<br />
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< . . . waiting . . . ><br />
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< realizing that I could have ordered the cereal from Amazon and had it delivered already><br />
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< . . . waiting . . . ><br />
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< salesperson returns, box of frosted flakes in hand > "Hey, is this the one you wanted?"<br />
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< perplexed > "No, not at all. I was looking for Corn Flakes."<br />
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< unfazed > "These are pretty much the same thing; they come pre-sweetened and don't really cost much more. It's a better deal."<br />
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< angry > "That's not what I wanted . . . Do you not have Corn Flakes?"<br />
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< sheepish > "Well, I couldn't find them in the back but I can check the computer. This is better though and it doesn't cost much more."<br />
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< angry-er > "Ughhh, alright what do they cost?"<br />
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< pleased > "$7.99"<br />
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< furious > "What? The sale price is $3.99 for a box of Corn Flakes? How could you possibly think I would want an $8 box of cereal?"<br />
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< salesperson-y > "Well, $7.99. But they are better. You have to buy your own sugar if you go with Corn Flakes."<br />
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< as upset as possible > "I don't want sugar. I don't even use sugar with my Corn Flakes. If you don't have the Kellogg's Corn Flakes that are for sale, do you at least have a 12 oz box of the store brand Corn Flakes?"<br />
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< happy he's helping me > "Probably, let's go check on the computer. It will tell me if we have them in stock."<br />
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< pulls handheld computer out of back pocket. I begin to wonder why this salesperson couldn't look on the computer for the Kellogg's Corn Flakes but quickly dismiss the thought ><br />
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< furrowed brow > "Well, it says here we have the store brand Corn Flakes in 12 oz boxes. Do you want me to go check?"<br />
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< no longer angry, just confused > "Check? What do you mean?"<br />
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< condescending > "Well, just because it's in the computer doesn't mean it's in the store room. I mean, it's not on the shelf, right?"<br />
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< about to give up > "Sure, go check."<br />
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< . . . waiting . . . ><br />
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< manager walks up > "Did you find your Corn Flakes?"<br />
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< jaw set aggressively > "No, I have not found any Corn Flakes."<br />
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< manager gets uncomfortably close > "You know, you could just skip the whole cereal thing and get one of these breakfast-in-a-bar things we've got. It's cereal, yogurt, fruit, and nuts all rolled up in one. It doesn't cost much more than a box of cereal."<br />
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< amazed > "No, really, I just want a box of cereal. I already have milk, fruit, and nuts at home. I hate yogurt. I just want a box of cereal."<br />
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< manager had already walked away while I was talking ><br />
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< salesperson comes back with the biggest bag of cereal I have ever seen > "Here you go, this one is actually a really good deal."<br />
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< shaking my head > "What is that? Why would you bring that out? I said I wanted a 12 oz box of Corn Flakes? That's got to be . . ."<br />
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< proud > "72 ounces. The biggest bag of cereal you can get. Not much more than the Frosted Flakes actually."<br />
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< about to cry, getting sweaty > "I don't . . . I have no interest in a giant bag of cereal. I could never eat all of that cereal. That's gotta be like, $20 right?"<br />
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< beaming > "Nope, not even $20. $18.99. Told you it was a good deal."<br />
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< firmly resolute in my desire to hang on > "So you don't have any 12 oz boxes o Corn Flakes? No Kellogg's, no store brand. No other brands?"<br />
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< confused > "Ummm, doesn't look like it. Computer says one but I can't find it. Have you seen our breakfast bars?"<br />
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< leaving the store >Chris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839481180230815106.post-49722290716852117412011-11-10T09:35:00.000-07:002011-11-10T09:35:45.940-07:00Easy Crock Pot BBQ RibsI thought I would share one of the crock pot recipes I've been doing for years. It's so easy and delicious (and relatively cheap) that I thought others might like to give it a try.<br />
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<b>Ingredients:</b><br />
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<ul><li>2.5 pounds of country style ribs (beef or pork, try to catch them when they're on sale, they freeze great!)</li>
<li>1 bottle of the BBQ sauce (<a href="http://www.sweetbabyrays.com/" target="_blank">Sweet Baby Ray's</a> is my absolute favorite and they recently went on sale at $0.88 for an 18 oz bottle, I bought 20)</li>
<li>1 medium size onion (I love red onions, but any kind will do)</li>
<li>2 cloves garlic (or 10, as you prefer ) </li>
<li>6 mushrooms (optional, I buy <a href="http://www.thekitchn.com/thekitchn/ingredients-vegetables/what-are-cremini-mushrooms-a-few-mushroom-facts-073949" target="_blank">cremini</a> but anything works)</li>
<li>1 can beef broth</li>
<li>1 T apple cider vinegar</li>
<li>1 T vegetable oil (or bacon grease, if you're like me and always have some handy :) )</li>
<li>Salt and pepper to flavor (or your favorite BBQ spice rub)</li>
</ul><div><b>Preparation: </b></div><div><b><br />
</b></div><div>This really is about as easy as cooking can get. Dice the onion, when I made it this morning I had red and white onions in the fridge so I used half a red and half a white onion but the key really is to get a nice dice going and get that onion-y goodness in your crock pot. </div><div><br />
</div><div>Break down your garlic cloves, dice them finely or use a press, and toss em in the crock pot. </div><div><br />
</div><div>Grab your bottle of BBQ sauce and pour the whole thing in. In order to get all of the yumminess out of the BBQ bottle, pour your beef broth into the bottle and shake, shake, shake it up. Pour the beef broth into the mix as well. </div><div><br />
</div><div>Now, if you're lucky enough to have a bottle of Wickersham Family Authentic Down Home BBQ Spice Rub shake a decent helping into the pot, otherwise add a teaspoon each of salt and pepper and send me an email begging for a sample of my spice rub. </div><div><br />
</div><div>Next quarter (or smaller, if you're a little mushroom queasy) the mushrooms and mix them into your crock pot. These mushroom are totally optional, you could leave them out completely if you wish but why would you! Their primary role is, of course, to add their earthy, nutty flavor to the recipe. The added benefit, even more of course, is that they give you something else to soak up the yummy base you just made over the next 8 hours and help stretch the recipe if you're feeding a large family. And an earthy, nutty flavor, of course. </div><div><br />
</div><div>Now that you have your base taken care of (that was really easy, right) it's time to turn to your meat. You could just throw the ribs into the crock pot and be done; I've done this on many occasions when I've been in a hurry. It will be delicious. </div><div><br />
</div><div>If you have a few extra minutes, however (a really, really small number of minutes) you can crank the flavor up a few notches by browning the ribs before you put them in the crock pot. The flavor benefit to lightly browning these ribs before you braise them all day in the crock pot is unbelievable. The secret to all this extra flavor, obviously, is the <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maillard_reaction" target="_blank">Maillard reaction.</a> It's also an opportunity to sneak some bacon into your ribs, which is never a bad idea. If you happen to have a tub (or a skillet left over from breakfast) of bacon grease you owe your family an apology if you skip this step. Seriously, it's bacon. Vegetable oil works well too if that's all you have (seriously, save your bacon grease). You want a mid-hot pan so you get a good sizzle, grab your tongs and lightly brown each side of your ribs. Then toss them into the crock pot. That's it. 5 minutes for flavor magic.</div><div><br />
</div><div>Now, if you browned your ribs you've got to keep all those brown bits in the pan. <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Deglazing_(cooking)" target="_blank">Deglaze </a>with the apple cider vinegar (I said 1 tablespoon but I just use a couple splashes to cover the pan) and use your wooden spoon or silicon spatula to to get all that gooey goodness off the bottom of the pan. Let it reduce for just another minute (really, you've got the time!) and pour it into the crock pot. </div><div><br />
</div><div>If you didn't brown your ribs, just pour a couple splashes of apple cider vinegar into the crock pot. Seriously though, brown the ribs. </div><div><br />
</div><div>That's it! Stir it up a little to make sure the ribs are coated and set the timer so they're done by dinner. I like to go low for at least 8 hours but it's up to you. These ribs tend to be pretty tough and chewy so the lower and slower you can cook them the better they'll be. I like to serve them on a plate with some rice and my kids love them. Let me know if you try it!</div>Chris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839481180230815106.post-4300373090363836072011-09-08T09:02:00.000-07:002011-09-08T09:02:08.000-07:00BBQ Smoker Modifications<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">People have shown a (surprising) interest in seeing the mods I did to my BBQ Smoker, which is the </div><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001CJKUO4/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=wickersconsul-20&linkCode=as2&camp=217145&creative=399369&creativeASIN=B001CJKUO4">Char-Griller 5050 Duo Gas-and-Charcoal Grill</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=&l=as2&o=1&a=B001CJKUO4&camp=217145&creative=399369" style="border: none !important; margin: 0px !important;" width="1" /> with a side firebox added. We use the charcoal side almost exclusively for smoking big hunks of meat but I have noticed some shortcomings. Apparently <a href="http://www.deejayssmokepit.net/Downloads_files/CharGrilleMods.pdf">a bunch of other people have too</a>, and I found some great ideas for fixing things up. The biggest problem has been keeping temperature up, not surprising because of the relative lightweight nature of the smoker, and I wanted to address this so I could help keep the temperatures stable.<br />
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My idea was to both add thermal mass and to increase the time that the smoke/heat stayed in the cooking chamber. The first addition was to add a 3 inch water heater exhaust pipe to the chimney and bring it down to the grill surface.<br />
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</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">The next step was relatively simple but I think will make the biggest difference in the overall performance of the smoker; eight firebricks in the bottom of the smoker. These bricks sit close to the firebox opening and add a tremendous amount of thermal mass to the smoker. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">I mounted a couple of stainless steel sheet metal squares on top of the bricks. The right side piece is pressure fit between the slightly offset bolts holding on the firebox and the left side is sitting loose so it can be adjusted to tune the temperature gradient across the pit. </div><br />
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</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">The stainless steel plates serve two purposes: both serving as a bit of a duct to carry the smoke across the pit and as a vaporization plate for dripping fat and juices from the meet. I can also add a cookie sheet if I need to with some water (or beer :) ) to make it into a water smoker, but I have a vertical smoker, the <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000AYQN0W/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=wickersconsul-20&linkCode=as2&camp=217145&creative=399373&creativeASIN=B000AYQN0W">Brinkmann 852-7080-E Charcoal Gourmet Grill and Smoker</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=&l=as2&o=1&a=B000AYQN0W&camp=217145&creative=399373" style="border: none !important; margin: 0px !important;" width="1" />, that does water very well. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br />
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</div><div class="" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">With the smoke coming through the bricks and under the stainless plates and drifting up and back across the surface of the grill to get to the exhaust pipe I'm hoping to get a more serious hit of smoke in the meat as it smokes and also a more consistent temperature over time. I'll keep you posted!</div>Chris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839481180230815106.post-68876707855889020942011-07-12T21:14:00.001-07:002011-07-13T15:49:07.724-07:00Urban Farming Overabundance: Fresh Tomato Sauce<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjMgbWbt_AZjDlTocEfqfVWvz-GEGesRmCEM6ogt2IfHYyomRv1q6MBt-dETsZ8lSapDXcFrMVcusCfbchcXL6QazuTA1umGtKAITKCnhX_hUqr0KLS-z9MuvMtMgRl7qQEKt6OFuxFWdM9/s1600/photo+1.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjMgbWbt_AZjDlTocEfqfVWvz-GEGesRmCEM6ogt2IfHYyomRv1q6MBt-dETsZ8lSapDXcFrMVcusCfbchcXL6QazuTA1umGtKAITKCnhX_hUqr0KLS-z9MuvMtMgRl7qQEKt6OFuxFWdM9/s320/photo+1.JPG" width="320" /></a></div>Our tomatoes have been producing like crazy lately. So many, in fact, that I can't get them picked fast enough before they start to over ripen on the vine.<br />
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Today we went and I stripped the heirlooms as aggressively as I could; lots of beautiful orange, yellow, black, and (boring!) red lovelies to fill up the refrigerator.<br />
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One thing I know some people struggle with is what to do with "mushy" tomatoes. I have even seen people in the garden throw them in the compost bin because they were soft. Ahhhhh! Today we had a fair amount of beautiful ripe "mushy" fruit and I decided that it looked like just the right amount to cook for dinner. Here is a quick rundown of what I did with them; hopefully it will help you avoid the temptation to toss the mushers!<br />
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The first step was to separate out all of the mushy tomatoes. We had a nice big wire basket that we filled up -- you can see the wonderful variety of color in the tomatoes.<br />
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Next I poured the mixture into a stock pot with a little salt, pepper, and "italian seasoning' from Sprouts. Sidebar - I love Sprouts for buying spices. So easy to buy fresh spices and so cheap; their blends are amazing!<br />
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The secret to a great sauce from fresh tomatoes (mushy or otherwise) is cooking it long and low (in my opinion). I can't remember why at the moment ( I believe it was something I heard on America's Test Kitchen), but it is very important that you don't let tomatoes get to a boil when you're cooking them as it will really ruin their fresh flavor. I left them on medium-low uncovered for about three hours until they were nice and thick and had lost most of their water (the kitchen smelled wonderful!) and set the mixure aside until we were ready to make dinner.<br />
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Once it was time for dinner, I poured a few cups of red wine in the pot and let it cook off for about 10 minutes. A little grated parmesan, some good EVOO, and half a lemon with it's zest and we were ready to eat! We served it over some farfalla with a few grilled chicken breasts and a spinach, mozzarella, and fresh tomatoes salad on the side. It was a wonderful "mushy tomato" dinner!<br />
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UPDATE: I forgot to take a picture of the finished product yesterday, but I got this pic today from leftover lunchtime<br />
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</div><div>The reason I'm blogging about this is because I believe it is a powerful reflection on a subject that has been very important to me in the past few years. I have spent a lot of time in academia; from my undergraduate work in physics, math, and the classics, to my graduate work in both physics and theology I have spent more than nine years in the university setting. One of the things I have learned is what it takes in that environment to earn the authority to speak. Degrees, papers, citations; none of this is new to most of us. If you don't have the paper no one is really going to listen to you. </div><div><br />
</div><div>During that same time, I made myself a student of new media (though it wasn't always called that) and I have spent more time than may be appropriate for a person my age and with my responsibilities attempting to stay on the leading edge; I'm not a <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Digital_native">Digital Native</a> but I feel like I've worked hard enough for long enough that I'm as close as a Digital Immigrant can be (<a href="http://goo.gl/t6o0H">read more</a> about Digital Natives and Digital Immigrants). </div><div><br />
</div><div>In my native state of Florida we have a divide almost as sharp as the one in the Digital realm; you're either a native or you're not and there aren't any shades of gray. We do have a way, however, of talking about people who have put in enough time to speak with authority about life in the Sunshine State - they might not be natives but "they have a lot of sand in their shoes." What I'm getting at (in a very roundabout way) is that I know I'm not a Digital Native but I think I've got a lot of sand in my shoes (or bits on my disk?). In fact, I think it is my existence in the nether world between native and immigrant that puts me in a fantastic position to really think about what it means to speak with authority in this new world. </div><div><br />
</div><div>I felt so compelled to spend serious time thinking about authority and new media that I crafted an independent study class while I was at the Claremont School of Theology and spent a semester doing research and experimenting with new media and community. In a sad meta-commentary on the subject, I did quite poorly from an academic perspective in this independent study class because I didn't submit an appropriately academic paper summarizing my findings to my professor. Somehow the website, Facebook page, and twitter following I built along with the essay I wrote summarizing my findings (even though this was the agreed syllabus - grumble grumble) didn't pass muster. I'm fairly certain that my professor's reaction to my work has nothing to do with my findings and the thesis of my essay which was that, essentially, the future doesn't look too bright for professors whose authority is derived from publications and degrees, pastors whose authority is derived from an ordaining body, or educators whose authority is derived from school boards and certifying bodies.</div><div><br />
</div><div>What I have found, and I would love your feedback on this, is that for Digital Natives authority is derived from within a community. Furthermore, regardless of the pedigree you enter a community with you start from square one. PhD? Title? Publications? Bupkus. Your first foray into a community are like a baby's first steps. You gain authority based on the thoughtfulness and sincerity (or wit, or sarcastic sharpness) of your contributions and little else. Being vouched for by others is an effective way to gain ground quickly but ultimately your place in the community is based on what you have contributed to the community. </div><div><br />
</div><div>I believe that, at it's core, this isn't a revolutionary idea. I think what is revolutionary, however, is the idea that we can't carry our authority from one community to another. Chap Clark said a lot about independence within youth communities in his book <a href="http://goo.gl/LsVjg">Hurt: Inside the World of Today's Teenagers</a> (Highly Recommended!) and based on my own experiences I think it can be expanded more generally to speak about all communities that Digital Natives participate in. </div><div><br />
</div><div>The take away from this (and what it was about the article about texting on umc.org that prompted me to write this) is that this tears down the very idea of an authority figure standing up in the front of the room (both figuratively and literally) and educating or otherwise exerting influence on those listening. It's why, in my opinion, so many Digital Immigrants find themselves torn down and disrespected when they act in authoritative ways that seem completely reasonable to most of us. You listen to your teacher because they are the teacher (because someone told you they were in charge). You learn from your pastor because they are the pastor (because someone told you they were in charge). You go to graduate school and get a piece of paper that tells everyone that what you have to say is important. And it is important - I derive great meaning from the doctoral process - but what I'm trying to suggest is that authority within the academic community that recognizes the doctorate no longer carries over into other communities (if it ever really did). </div><div><br />
</div><div>Of more concern to me is the realization that this same applies to the church community. This is why I am so intrigued by the article referenced above. The sermon becomes a conversation. The pastor of the church is no longer a single point of authority but becomes instead a curator of the conversation. If Digital Natives are to become engaged in the Church then it is my suggestion that the local church must become a community whose authority is grown organically from within. The experiences and understanding of God that a 12 year old youth brings to the conversation is just as important as the seminary education that the pastor of the church brings to the conversation. The anger and hurt that a 30-something single father brings to the community becomes an integral part of the theology of the community; the community must be grown from within. This poses serious problems to institutions - particularly those who send clergy into a church and expect them to represent the church's authority from day one. </div><div><br />
</div><div>What does a church that allows authority to be cultivated within the community look like? I don't know. Is it important that we figure it out? I think it is of the utmost importance. I think Morning Star Church in Missouri is doing some of the hard work that we all need to engage in to keep the Church alive. </div>Chris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839481180230815106.post-58706036079027730502011-06-15T15:11:00.001-07:002011-06-15T19:05:03.426-07:00UMC And Social MediaIt has come to my attention that the Kentucky Annual Conference of the United Methodist Church may be requiring clergy and (possibly) those in the ordination process to sign a document promising to add a fake profile on Facebook and Myspace as a "friend" for the purpose of allowing their conduct on these sites to be monitored. They are also being required, as I understand it, to disclose any blogs or other websites that they own so that these can be monitored as well. The whole of the offending document can be <span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">found at <a href="http://www.blogger.com/goog_1443269185">http://</a></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #222222; line-height: 19px; white-space: nowrap;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><a href="http://goo.gl/R6j29">goo.gl/R6j29</a> and what follows is an excerpt:</span></span><br />
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<blockquote>I, ________________________, agree to allow the Kentucky Annual Conference to examine any and all MySpace, Facebook, or other blog and website accounts that I may have. I have added the Kentucky Annual Conference as a friend on these sites. If I do not have a MySpace, Facebook, or other website account at this time, if at any time I should create one of these accounts, I agree to add the Kentucky Annual Conference as a friend. I agree that access to any part of these accounts will not be blocked to the Kentucky Annual Conference. I understand that any information of a questionable nature on these sites that are written and/or posted by me, could affect my status as a Candidate/Resident in the Ordination process with the Kentucky Annual Conference. Further, I also understand that my Barnabas Team will regularly check these sites for inappropriate content. I agree to and understand that material that would be deemed questionable in light of the Social Principles and Doctrinal Standards of the United Methodist Church or that would show lack of judgment in understanding the standards and ethics of a United Methodist clergyperson will be determined by the Board of Ordained Ministry and my assigned Barnabas Team.</blockquote><div class="MsoNormal"><o:p></o:p></div><br />
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I believe this is highly unethical and, frankly, quite offensive in addition to (probably) being against Facebook's Terms of Service. Specifically, the TOS states:<br />
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</div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">It <span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">appears that the account that was setup on Facebook at </span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><a href="http://www.facebook.com/kyumcbom">http://www.facebook.com/kyumcbom</a> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">was done under the name "Kelly McDonald" and uses the email address bom@kyumc.org. There is also a user named "Kelly Bartlett McDonald that is "friends" with this account that, I am guessing, is the same Kelly McDonald" listed as the <i>Administrative Assistant to Director of Ministerial Services</i> at kmcdonald@kyumc.org. At the very least, the way that this Annual Conference has chosen to implement this invasion of privacy is against the rules set forth by Facebook. </span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: black; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px;"><strong><br />
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I promise I will praise your intellect as often as I praise your beauty; your strength as often as your grace. I will encourage your independence when all I want to do is hold you close and protect you from the evil in our world. Most of all, I will never let a day go by without showing you how much I love you and letting you know how thankful I am that God blessed my life with your presence.<br /><br />To My Son,<br /><br />Your road will be so much different than the one your sisters will travel on. I want you to know that I love you with all my heart and soul. You were the unexpected light that sparked in a darkened room and gave new life to my soul. I know that you too are growing up in a world that will test the very limits of your abilities and try to make you into someone much less than the person God created you to be. I believe in you; forever and always. I promise I will do everything I possibly can to uplift and empower you with the understanding that this alone won't be enough to open all of the doors the world wants to close. I promise I will never shy away from telling you how beautiful you are; I will praise your grace, artistry, and empathy as often as your strength, speed, and intellect. I will shelter and protect you even when the world calls for you to strike out on your own and be fiercely independent. Most of all, I will never let a day go by without showing you how much I love you and letting you know how thankful I am that God blessed my life with your presence.<br /> <br /><br /><br />Chris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839481180230815106.post-23557389775420853472011-05-06T11:48:00.006-07:002011-05-06T12:07:14.386-07:00Sub-Irrigated Garden<div>Well, when we moved to Avondale I had to leave behind my beloved garden beds. I had worked for years to develop rich soil in the gardens on the north and south sides of the house and had some really well developed fruit trees going in back yard. So many plans turned to dust. We're in a rental house now, so I have to be a bit more careful about my approach to permaculture but I can't stand the thought of not growing some of our own food. The kids love it, and there is nothing like going out into the backyard to pick a salad or gather some broccoli for dinner. So I decided to get ambitious and build a large sub-irrigated bed in the back yard to take care of our gardening needs. If you're not familiar with the concept, check out one of my favorite urban gardening sites at <a href="http://www.insideurbangreen.org/diy-sub-irrigation/">http://www.insideurbangreen.org/diy-sub-irrigation/</a> for a dizzying array of examples and pictures. The basic idea is that you provide a way to water your garden from the bottom up which prevents evaporation and promotes deep root penetration. I think it's an ideal solution for desert gardening. We have a large open area covered in rocks on the west side of the house which I have decided will become the "farm" side of the house. The long term plan is to have two raised sub-irrigated beds as well as our composter and the chicken coops on this side of the house with a little picket-fence to keep out the dogs and toddlers (I'm not sure yet which is more destructive to the garden). Here are a few snapshots, hopefully there will be more as the growing season hits full stride.</div><div><br /></div><div>This first picture is just after we finished construction. Notice the black fill-pipe in the back corner. This is where we water the garden. Sorry I had to cut my model out of the picture...</div><div><br /></div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh0O3i8oZnKoPxLJDs9aRlbhvLBHflsCJYAA_BIDqf_MVbkXJONO-bCwUaFutKAjg0dl4nW4zfj6M-QyRGHGzQXnwhFjXLihf77pSfvCd59zXTVvNpRPCTg1Ayj_9Sm7CYxSk_cYlXcr_fL/s1600/Empty+Garden.png" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 250px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh0O3i8oZnKoPxLJDs9aRlbhvLBHflsCJYAA_BIDqf_MVbkXJONO-bCwUaFutKAjg0dl4nW4zfj6M-QyRGHGzQXnwhFjXLihf77pSfvCd59zXTVvNpRPCTg1Ayj_9Sm7CYxSk_cYlXcr_fL/s320/Empty+Garden.png" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5603679265887163170" /></a><br /><div><br /></div><div>This next picture is about a month later after things had really started taking off. The tall plants in the middle are the tomatoes, squash on the left side of the picture and cauliflower on the right side. The foreground is different varieties of peppers and sown in the bare spots are carrots, beets, and spinach.</div><div><br /><div><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhbWscQ1YzMhcf0ZPaH0uk4hFMYXy_t8-jO88Av6sP-LwsxCXt-6cpSZvnrSMWHIpAWAazpp-FuXlFJAb7IXzF2TuoDVeHjMqYTpMPfc0OhTOohINXiGc2ZEfPV6Xbh4CWRdElf_Mb51Dpi/s1600/South+Side+Garden.png" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 313px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhbWscQ1YzMhcf0ZPaH0uk4hFMYXy_t8-jO88Av6sP-LwsxCXt-6cpSZvnrSMWHIpAWAazpp-FuXlFJAb7IXzF2TuoDVeHjMqYTpMPfc0OhTOohINXiGc2ZEfPV6Xbh4CWRdElf_Mb51Dpi/s320/South+Side+Garden.png" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5603680388331808466" /></a><br /></div><div>And a view from the other side (cracked bonsai pots courtesy of the twins). Two large basil plans next to the tomatoes, some cabbage on the left side, eggplant and zucchini on the right side. Next to the basil you see leeks and swiss chard, with various onions, garlic, and scallions filling in the rest. There is quite a bit of loose-leaf lettuce sown in the bare spots and the bonsai-pot-corner now contains a flowering strawberry plant (not-pictured).</div><div><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgzrSgXTwNEdxuci38-HjSTx95UIrFLqwDrsS2dLdG6h0Mgiyzmht65fA4L-i1eojuiNsqhoirYNoGc2oaXpQ-d3tcBcrcVv029OHXuty0lPL-sxs4e0wvHFCm1eaxeKxHxTlk5oGcSQJtE/s1600/North+Side+Garden.png" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 240px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgzrSgXTwNEdxuci38-HjSTx95UIrFLqwDrsS2dLdG6h0Mgiyzmht65fA4L-i1eojuiNsqhoirYNoGc2oaXpQ-d3tcBcrcVv029OHXuty0lPL-sxs4e0wvHFCm1eaxeKxHxTlk5oGcSQJtE/s320/North+Side+Garden.png" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5603680345321551442" /></a><br /></div><div><br /></div></div>Chris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839481180230815106.post-36862069229149634242011-03-14T11:05:00.001-07:002011-03-14T11:05:45.671-07:00Privilege and childrenSo I am reaching the end of the quarter and can't get one nagging n out of my mind. I can consciously make every effort to reject my privilege when it comes to decisions about my own life (with somewhat varying degrees of success); how do I reject the privilege that allows my children opportunities to excel to their maximum potential? Is it fair to them to make decisions that don't take full advantage of our privilege? I want to say it's NOT fair to them to systematically oppress others so that they may have opportunities unavailable to many other children but the daddy instinct fights back hard. Thoughts?<p><br>Sent from my iPhoneChris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839481180230815106.post-86395681561100117042011-02-26T19:02:00.002-07:002011-02-26T19:05:31.109-07:00Confessions<p>One of the most common things I hear about Christians is that they are judgemental. I struggled for years to be as non-judgmental and accepting as I could in order to be able to says with pride that I am a Christian who loves and accepts everyone for who they are. The longer I spend in seminary (I suppose this is one of the dangers of spending half a decade in graduate school) the more I feel compelled to admit that I am becoming more judgmental and less accepting of others. Before you throw stones my way, let me qualify that by saying that my finger doesn't wag towards gay men or women, transgender individuals, people who have made the decision to end a pregnancy, people with tattoos, people with drug habits, or any of the other "traditional" finger-wagging judgments that Christians are famous for making. Instead, I find myself less and less able to accept people who believe that some people are more worthy of God's love than others. I find myself unwilling to take a "live and let live" attitude towards those who claim homosexuality is a disease or that the Church is closed to those who don't live their lives in quite the "right" way. I find myself recoiling in disgust when I hear a joke that is made at the expense of someone who has been marginalized and is oppressed in our society. I decided some time ago that I couldn't allow myself to reprsent a Christian Church that didn't participate in a fully open communion and didn't truly throw open the doors to the least and the lost. "Open Doors, Open Minds, Open Doors" is a pretty slogan but until everyone is welcomed for exactly who they are I believe it is vacuous at best.</p><p>I spent the last two days in the company of Sister Helen Prejean and met a man today who is a death-row survivor. Shit. The death penalty becomes another thread of intolerance in my psyche; I can't accept that any viewpoint that justifies the murder of a defenseless human being. Let me be clear, I recognize this prejudice as sin. I am a broken man and I pray constantly that I can find a way to love everyone I meet with the open acceptance that God demands of me. But I'm not there and I feel like I'm going to get farther and farther away from who I want to be before I begin to turn around. Part of me wonders if this is the kind of intolerance that the world needs; what kind of change can we create in the world if we don't sacrifice ourselves for what we believe is right even at the expense of personal sin. I can only ask for grace when I let you down. </p>Chris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839481180230815106.post-42793737822472582312010-11-21T02:04:00.001-07:002010-11-21T02:04:43.495-07:00Sarah putting on a show<div class='posterous_autopost'> <div style='padding: 5px 5px 10px 5px; margin-top: 5px; border: 1px solid #ddd; background-color: #fff;line-height: 16px;'> <div style="float: left; margin-right: 5px; overflow: visible;"><a href='http://posterous.com/getfile/files.posterous.com/will592/OhVrHW6eDHkJzD3BjSaytSfE0uQMOv9gxpqqb83Ykpc9EnslPrfbML99vAcw/IMG_1294.mov' style='color: #bc7134;'><img src='http://posterous.com/images/filetypes/mov.png' style='border: none;'/></a></div> <div style="font-size: 10px; color: #424037;line-height: 16px;">Download now or <a href="http://will592.posterous.com/sarah-putting-on-a-show" style="color: #bc7134">watch on posterous</a></div> <b><a href='http://posterous.com/getfile/files.posterous.com/will592/OhVrHW6eDHkJzD3BjSaytSfE0uQMOv9gxpqqb83Ykpc9EnslPrfbML99vAcw/IMG_1294.mov' style='color: #bc7134;'>IMG_1294.MOV</a></b> <span style="font-size: 10px; color: #424037;">(3818 KB)</span> <br style="clear: both;"/></div> <p>Sent from my iPhone</p> <p style="font-size: 10px;"> <a href="http://posterous.com">Posted via email</a> from <a href="http://will592.posterous.com/sarah-putting-on-a-show">Chris and his posterous</a> </p> </div>Chris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839481180230815106.post-30697676582920532252010-09-20T18:25:00.001-07:002010-09-20T18:25:32.398-07:00Dinner time<div class='posterous_autopost'> <div style='padding: 5px 5px 10px 5px; margin-top: 5px; border: 1px solid #ddd; background-color: #fff;line-height: 16px;'> <div style="float: left; margin-right: 5px; overflow: visible;"><a href='http://posterous.com/getfile/files.posterous.com/will592/M4aSTyw9mhFIPCn5vChpyDe7odT1RrqZsgmETSlebmDZ0s7lskqs71hVxFJ0/IMG_1134.mov' style='color: #bc7134;'><img src='http://posterous.com/images/filetypes/mov.png' style='border: none;'/></a></div> <div style="font-size: 10px; color: #424037;line-height: 16px;">Download now or <a href="http://will592.posterous.com/dinner-time" style="color: #bc7134">watch on posterous</a></div> <b><a href='http://posterous.com/getfile/files.posterous.com/will592/M4aSTyw9mhFIPCn5vChpyDe7odT1RrqZsgmETSlebmDZ0s7lskqs71hVxFJ0/IMG_1134.mov' style='color: #bc7134;'>IMG_1134.MOV</a></b> <span style="font-size: 10px; color: #424037;">(3656 KB)</span> <br style="clear: both;"/></div> <p>Complete with a little twin-fighting</p> <p style="font-size: 10px;"> <a href="http://posterous.com">Posted via email</a> from <a href="http://will592.posterous.com/dinner-time">Chris and his posterous</a> </p> </div>Chris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839481180230815106.post-50193990216595851562010-08-28T13:24:00.002-07:002010-08-31T01:33:10.215-07:00Saturday forthouse<div class="posterous_autopost"><p><a href="http://posterous.com/getfile/files.posterous.com/will592/IIgrlozGtxooHmBqxqwkupDoByftiJailykueuhqsHGBGfecvcgFuptsmEaJ/IMG_0067.jpg.scaled1000.jpg"><img src="http://posterous.com/getfile/files.posterous.com/will592/IIgrlozGtxooHmBqxqwkupDoByftiJailykueuhqsHGBGfecvcgFuptsmEaJ/IMG_0067.jpg.scaled500.jpg" width="500" height="375" /></a></p> </div>Chris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839481180230815106.post-38947899557638374722010-08-27T12:27:00.005-07:002010-08-27T15:59:22.695-07:00A Difficult RequestAlright, I'm horrible at asking for help but I have 90437361748 kids and <a href="http://www.gbhem.org/site/c.lsKSL3POLvF/b.3738647/k.CF90/Steps_into_Ordained_Ministry.htm">becoming an ordained minister</a> is a very expensive and time consuming process. As some of you know, i have transferred to the <a href="http://www.iliff.edu/index">Iliff School of Theology</a> to continue my studies. This was mainly due to Iliff adding a '<a href="http://www.iliff.edu/index/learn/degrees-certificates/degree-programs/master-of-divinity/journey-mdiv/faq-journey-mdiv-/">Journey</a>' program which will allow me to travel to school once a quarter instead of every two weeks as I have been doing. This will save me A LOT of money but it is still an outrageous amount every quarter. I have been on scholarship the last two years but scholarship money seems to be drying up, so I am faced with more student loans in order to finish. I am about halfway through my degree and hope to finish in the next two calendar years.<br /><br />What I am asking for is financial help.<br /><br /><a href="http://amzn.com/w/BHA2B3SNQB2H">My books cost about $200 a quarter</a>, <a href="http://www.southwest.com/">plane tickets to Denver</a> are about the same. Each quarter hour is about $600 and I am trying to stay full time by taking 8 each quarter (two classes). It hurts to ask for help but I feel like God is trying to teach me a lesson about humility. So I am trying to get past my temptation to delete this. Again. Still trying not to delete. I know there are lots of people that are in much harder financial positions than I am but I’m trying to faithfully follow my call without placing too heavy a burden on my family. If you can help, even a small amount, I would really appreciate it. I’m not asking anyone to pay my way through this thing, but it would mean a lot to me and my personal ministry if you could support me by purchasing a book or a one way plane ticket to Denver or a credit hour or anything.<br /><br />Please follow this link to find the list of books I need to purchase for the current quarter: <a href="http://amzn.com/w/BHA2B3SNQB2H">Fall 2010 Book List</a><br /><br />Anyone interested in donating money can do so by sending a check directly to Iliff made payable to “Iliff School of Theology” with a note specifying that it is a scholarship for Chris Wickersham:<br /><br />Iliff School of Theology<br />2201 South University Boulevard<br />Denver, Colorado 80210<br /><br />Or by sending money directly through Paypal:<br /><form action="https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr" method="post"><br /><div style="text-align: left;"> <input type="image" src="https://www.paypal.com/en_US/i/btn/btn_donateCC_LG.gif" border="0" name="submit" alt="PayPal - The safer, easier way to pay online!"></div><input type="hidden" name="cmd" value="_s-xclick"><input type="hidden" name="hosted_button_id" value="KWUMSBH3N79PG"><img alt="" border="0" src="https://www.paypal.com/en_US/i/scr/pixel.gif" width="1" height="1" /><br /></form><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div>I really do appreciate everything all of my friends and family do for me, thank you so much!Chris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839481180230815106.post-9836237949858961662010-08-19T07:53:00.001-07:002010-08-19T07:53:17.700-07:00Life with overly dramatic twins<div class='posterous_autopost'><p> <div style='padding: 5px 5px 10px 5px; margin-top: 5px; border: 1px solid #ddd; background-color: #fff;line-height: 16px;'> <div style="float: left; margin-right: 5px; overflow: visible;"><a href='http://posterous.com/getfile/files.posterous.com/will592/mttxxqtaytcxuozAyGtJBqHpvnzGsuczDpmAaqFbtuuckIAAnbhJHcmafzaq/IMG_0066.mov' style='color: #bc7134;'><img src='http://posterous.com/images/filetypes/mov.png' style='border: none;'/></a></div> <div style="font-size: 10px; color: #424037;line-height: 16px;">Click here to download:</div> <b><a href='http://posterous.com/getfile/files.posterous.com/will592/mttxxqtaytcxuozAyGtJBqHpvnzGsuczDpmAaqFbtuuckIAAnbhJHcmafzaq/IMG_0066.mov' style='color: #bc7134;'>IMG_0066.mov</a></b> <span style="font-size: 10px; color: #424037;">(0 KB)</span> <br style="clear: both;"/></div> </p> <p style="font-size: 10px;"> <a href="http://posterous.com">Posted via email</a> from <a href="http://will592.posterous.com/life-with-overly-dramatic-twins">Chris and his posterous</a> </p> </div>Chris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839481180230815106.post-52027829276924988232010-08-04T12:22:00.001-07:002010-08-04T12:22:37.930-07:00Olivia being clever<div class='posterous_autopost'>Olivia is so good manipulating things with her hands, she really is gifted! She eventually got the belt buckled and was awful proud of herself.<p> <div style='padding: 5px 5px 10px 5px; margin-top: 5px; border: 1px solid #ddd; background-color: #fff;line-height: 16px;'> <div style="float: left; margin-right: 5px; overflow: visible;"><a href='http://posterous.com/getfile/files.posterous.com/will592/wVEaDstyr4luvjv4X6Zq1A101o6MS9dLdPNbOXGJanDVvA6vZbfGrLm5KyGh/IMG_0949.mov' style='color: #bc7134;'><img src='http://posterous.com/images/filetypes/mov.png' style='border: none;'/></a></div> <div style="font-size: 10px; color: #424037;line-height: 16px;">Download now or <a href="http://will592.posterous.com/olivia-being-clever" style="color: #bc7134">watch on posterous</a></div> <b><a href='http://posterous.com/getfile/files.posterous.com/will592/wVEaDstyr4luvjv4X6Zq1A101o6MS9dLdPNbOXGJanDVvA6vZbfGrLm5KyGh/IMG_0949.mov' style='color: #bc7134;'>IMG_0949.MOV</a></b> <span style="font-size: 10px; color: #424037;">(2968 KB)</span> <br style="clear: both;"/></div> </p><p>Sent from my iPhone</p> <p style="font-size: 10px;"> <a href="http://posterous.com">Posted via email</a> from <a href="http://will592.posterous.com/olivia-being-clever">Chris and his posterous</a> </p> </div>Chris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839481180230815106.post-1820338297905886982010-08-04T12:20:00.001-07:002010-08-04T12:20:38.910-07:00Sarah howling in the airport<div class='posterous_autopost'>Grandma goes by 'Mad Dog' at the poker table, I think Sarah approves!<p> <div style='padding: 5px 5px 10px 5px; margin-top: 5px; border: 1px solid #ddd; background-color: #fff;line-height: 16px;'> <div style="float: left; margin-right: 5px; overflow: visible;"><a href='http://posterous.com/getfile/files.posterous.com/will592/C4QEIOX20upkerPtqqoTzamC2WWj9Q6hU7OaCp0Bitx3ibjvWCCwn6sgOTsm/IMG_0953.mov' style='color: #bc7134;'><img src='http://posterous.com/images/filetypes/mov.png' style='border: none;'/></a></div> <div style="font-size: 10px; color: #424037;line-height: 16px;">Download now or <a href="http://will592.posterous.com/sarah-howling-in-the-airport" style="color: #bc7134">watch on posterous</a></div> <b><a href='http://posterous.com/getfile/files.posterous.com/will592/C4QEIOX20upkerPtqqoTzamC2WWj9Q6hU7OaCp0Bitx3ibjvWCCwn6sgOTsm/IMG_0953.mov' style='color: #bc7134;'>IMG_0953.MOV</a></b> <span style="font-size: 10px; color: #424037;">(1417 KB)</span> <br style="clear: both;"/></div> </p><p>Sent from my iPhone</p> <p style="font-size: 10px;"> <a href="http://posterous.com">Posted via email</a> from <a href="http://will592.posterous.com/sarah-howling-in-the-airport">Chris and his posterous</a> </p> </div>Chris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839481180230815106.post-3515621006548680932009-12-26T10:31:00.001-07:002009-12-26T10:31:26.353-07:00Christmas EveSo Christmas Eve is a stressful time for people who work in the church. I'm sure I have lots of friends on Facebook that can sympathize. One of the most refreshing things that a church worker can do, on occasion, is find a congregation within which they disappear. After spending Christmas Eve struggling to help make our worship services meaningful for others, I realized that the night was almost over and I hadn't attended worship myself. Let me tell you this isn't abnormal, but this Christmas was one where I really felt the need to experience the miracle. So, after an exhausting day I headed out at 11pm with a friend to experience 'Nine Lessons and Carols' at an Episcopal church in Scottsdale. We arrived just as the service was kicking off and I was able to lose myself in anonymous worship.<br /><br />I belong to the United Methodist Church, and in fact as many of you know I am following a call to ordained ministry within the same denomination. I did, however, spend many years attending the Catholic mass and High Church Episcopal worship as a young man. I love modern worship; I love the freedom to let loose and to experiment with new (or extremely old) ways of praising God. I love loud guitars and pounding drums that shake the walls, I love the intimacy of acoustic guitar and hand drums and sharing the mystery of God's love with a tiny group of worshipers. There are times, however, when I want to be overwhelmed by Church. I don't know if it's a product of my early exposure to the liturgy or if it's simply something that renews me, but sometimes I just want to be chewed up and spit out by the machinery of tradition. There is something...mystical...that comes across when I bow before the cross or watch the altar party silently preparing the feast seemingly without regard to the masses in the pews. I love it...sometimes. I think that is the most beautiful thing about our Church, there never needs to be something missing because somewhere close by that something is an 'old standby' that people are clamoring to rid themselves of. <br /><br />So, why am I sharing this? I just wanted to take the opportunity to thank everyone that put service to the Church ahead of their own wants and desires this Christmas. I really appreciate it! I also want to encourage all of you in your ministries, whatever they may be. It's also a way for me to encourage us as a Church; we sometimes fret over our fractiousness but I think we need to spend more time celebrating the diversity within the faith. I know that this Christmas has helped me realize that I spend too much time trying to think about what we can change about our worship at Trinity: Rays of Hope instead of really exploring the depths of what we bring to the table that is unique; we all have distinct gifts from God (both as congregations and as individuals) and we need to spend time exploring what our strengths are and what we can bring to the wider community that no one else can. It's hard to remember sometimes, but there is someone out there looking for a place to worship and we fit the bill perfectly! Praise be to God and Merry Christmas!Chris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839481180230815106.post-59966244041507831442009-11-22T15:00:00.001-07:002009-11-22T15:00:12.612-07:00Sleepy Sarah
<p><a href='http://posterous.com/getfile/files.posterous.com/will592/IGtkxEtFahqzAxGnDAAnaxAExwhDJeurFylhteGrFwiDFJAruGJFtEpfouDf/IMG_0062.jpg.scaled1000.jpg'><img src="http://posterous.com/getfile/files.posterous.com/will592/IGtkxEtFahqzAxGnDAAnaxAExwhDJeurFylhteGrFwiDFJAruGJFtEpfouDf/IMG_0062.jpg.scaled500.jpg" width="500" height="667"/></a> </p> <p style="font-size: 10px;"> <a href="http://posterous.com">Posted via web</a> from <a href="http://will592.posterous.com/sleepy-sarah">Chris and his posterous</a> </p> Chris Wickershamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10426014093503694430noreply@blogger.com0